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Here is our last step for this week… hope to see you Sunday.

David prayed an insightful and powerful prayer to God… Psalm 139:23–24…  Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. All of this we have talked about is going to require God’s help.  Pray this prayer of David’s… every day this week.  Ask God to look inside you and help you sort out your problems with attaching to...

Old Habits, New Habits

You are going to resist attaching to someone.  Your old patterns and defenses will pop up.  You will begin to see them as they do.  When you notice them, take responsibility for them.  They are yours and you can decide what to do with them. As you begin to get close to someone, you may have a habit of devaluing them so you can distance yourself again.  A well known Christian counselor reminds us to notice it… say to yourself, “Oh...

Don’t Stop Now

I know all of this feels risky… because it is risky.  You are going to have to take risks if you are ever going to connect with others in a deep relationship.  Even Jesus took risks.  He took risks on all of us.  He took risks with you. Listen to Jesus’ invitation: “‘Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and...

Another step closer…

Don’t stop now.  There is more. It is possible to step toward others in relationships but still be alone and isolated.  We can hold the important things back.  We must learn to be vulnerable (scary… I know). To be vulnerable means to be open to criticism or attack.  In a healthy relationship where you are learning to connect, you need to be so open that you feel open to attack.  It is a skill to be learned but when you...